React Or Respond

I was having a conversation with a friend last night and the discussion came around to reacting to emotions. From my own healing journey and helping many other’s to respond rather than react its a fascinating subject. The question is what is the difference. I am sure like me many of you will at come stage in a working week become triggered. Interestingly its usually a partner or family member that the greatest number of triggers come from. What do I mean by triggers , for those of you that are not sure If its ok I want to clarify what I am discussing here. When we go about our daily lives situations or experience’s with another human being take place that feels uncomfortable. This is the trigger. Now that discomfort can be a small or it can immediately create a huge emotions such as wanting to run away, shut down ( and it will go away ) angers , fear . When we feel these in our system usually we react , I hope I am delivering this ok ? So when these uncomfortable emotions arise these are what we call triggers and if they are really strong ones something happens in our system and its like we are not in control anymore , its like the emotion is so strong our mind takes over and we react , I will just repeat that word we react in such a way that we want to run away , or we shut down , or we roll our sleeves up and we will sort this out , we may get angry and want to even hit out at something or someone . Then the big one is fear we just crumble into a freeze situation or we just begin to panic and don’t know what to do. When we begin to learn to let go of what is causing these triggers we then respond to the situation , we notice the trigger but it doesn’t create the emotion we pause reflect ponder there fore the mind or the ego what ever you want to call it doesn’t run our lives any more. We live more grounded respond to situations and experiences not react. If you wanna know more stephenbones.com , face book linked in YT see you soon